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February 07, 2008


Eva Smith

Your story made me cry! I'm currently pregnant with my first baby and it really scares me how things can go wrong. My mom was 39 when she gave birth to my little sister at 28 weeks. She had toxemia and pre-ecclampsia and Sylvia was born 1 and a half pounds. She's a beautiful and successful medical student now, which I think is such an amazing miracle. I'm so glad things turned out okay with Girlfriend for you. Thank you for the pattern, I will knit one for my own baby and at least one for the local hospital.


Wendy sometimes you just break my heart; I'm so sorry for what you've been through - I can't imagine how painful it must be.


Oh Wendy, I am so very sorry. I had no idea. My heart breaks for everything you and your husband have gone through. I cannot begin imagine how much it still must hurt. *hugs*


Firstly, I'm sorry, I can't even begin to imagine that kind of pain.

I was 42 when my first was born, and now he's almost a year, everything has gone smoothly, but I cry all the time over just the emotion of this amazing being that is now here. It's such a big thing, huge, this care of small ones.


Lots of love to you, Wendy.


I knew this story already, and I realize I have nothing useful to say, other than that this post is very affecting, even having heard the outline before. Really, I am just commenting to let you know I am out here, and thinking of you at this moment. And I like the edging on the blanket; it came out very pretty.


it's so brave of you to share your story with us. thank you. hope the pain goes away. the post is lovely, the blanket too.


Gosh, that's a difficult story to read, Wendy, so I can only imagine how difficult it was to write it, let alone live it. Life really stinks sometimes, but I suppose it's how you then deal with it that matters. The blanket is beautiful and will, I'm sure, be treasured.

My son is called Luke too (great name!) - he's 27 and a total dude.


Thanks for sharing your story. It must not be easy to type it out. Take care =)


Wonderful post. Thank you for sharing that with us. I had a 2nd miscarriage last year that rocked me to my core. Took quite a while to come to terms with it. Can not even imagine having to go through even part of what you had to deal with.

Honestly, I had never even thought about how much a Preemie blanket might mean to the parents. Again, thank you for sharing.


Wendy, I'm so sorry for what you went through. I feel blessed that my twin boys, born at 27 1/2 wks, survived and are healthy. Although, it was a rough ride in the beginning and throughout the pregnancy. They, too, were in the NICU for 2 months. Bless you.


Wendy. I feel so selfish, and short sighted when I think about the reason why I have been "cyber stalking" your site :) ... your stash sale has been a WONDERFUL window shopping experience! Your last post though, was the reality check I needed. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I wish I had words to express how sorry I am for what you had to endure. A close friend of mine took that rough NICU ride in November, and their very ride is still on-going. I have trouble finding adequate words for her too. Reading your post has made me want to try to DO SOMETHING wonderful for those precious little babes, and their frightened, sleep deprived parents. I downloaded your Tender Blankie pattern, and later today I will be calling our NICU and asking them what kinds of knitted items they accept. Bless you, and thank you.


I was born two months early in the late 60's. They told my Mom I would not make it to my third birthday. My Mom just gave me my blanket from the hospital.




My first was at 28wks with a rough 3m NICU ride. I'd sit at his side every day and knit - not well, and not even really knowing what I was making. One of the nurses, when we were leaving, mentioned I could leave the little baby bag I'd made for another baby. She mentioned it'd be a lovely gift for a grieving parent. I couldn't do it, then. It was made for mine and is a reminder of how little he was when he was born and how big he got when he was discharged (it didn't fit him by then).

I've thought a lot about knitting for the Preemie Project but it hurts so much to think about it. To bring back those memories. I hope to, in a few more years. I'm glad you can, and you give me hope that I'll be stronger some day.



I've just recently started reading your blog. Your post about your children was heartbreaking. I can only imagine the pain it must cause to tell us, to re-live it. I've been knitting preemie hats for the last two years for the Hats for Alex project, and your post has inspired me to continue. If a handknit item can give someone a sense of comfort in such an awful time then it is truly worth it. Hugs to you. And wishes that you never have to suffer from such grief and sadness again in your lifetime.



This morning I woke up for my own personal pity party. You know how some mornings it just seems like nobody loves you and everybody hates you and the sky is falling?

Well, your post has snapped me out of it. I've got the day off today and my project will be to knit a preemie blankie (and 2 squares I promised to a collective project). I'm sure I have stash to accommodate these projects, though I'll check my fiber content before choosing for the blankie.

Thanks for giving this whiner a healthy dose of perspective today.


My babies that survived all went to term (my daughter was 2 weeks early, but really in the big picture I don't consider her early, just impatient). My losses, even the late one, were so clinical. I remember my mother in law telling me that I had nothing to grieve about, but I knew better. I knit hats for the hospital,tho I've not turned any in for a while and still have a box of them to drop off. Sometimes you need to shut the painful stuff away for a bit. I knew bits of your story from reading here. Thank you for sharing.


I am so sorry for your losses. Thank you for sharing your story here; it takes my breath away. I truly admire your resilience. I will definitely make some of your blankets for my own hospital's NICU. I appreciate the pattern.


You are very strong and open and honest Wendy. I love your take on dealing with things in our own time. Thanks for writing the pattern.


I don't know what to say, except that I wanted to add my voice in support of all you have lived through. My aunt went through pain such as yours, culminating in the still births of her twin daughters. She will never be the same. I wish you peace and happiness, and hope for the brightest future for Girlfriend.


You break my heart. I've been reading your blog for a while now and yours is the one that can really wow me. I'm either laughing, in awe of your talent, or teary eyed. I'm so so sorry for all you and your husband have been through. My good friend's baby was born premature this December, only living a few hours. It is just gut wrenching to see her struggling through this. Now reading this ... I just called the hospital that treated my friend and will be knitting some blankets to donate in memory of Cadence. Thank you, Wendy. And hug Girlfriend for me! She is beautiful.


Thank you for sharing your story -- it's very moving and I'm crying trying to write this.
I will be making the blankie & donating it.


Sending you cheezy but heartfelt virtual hugs.

I do know the trauma of having a preemie. My eight year old was born at 25 weeks weighing just 20 ozs. He's doing very well, but the memories are still so fresh... even after giving birth to my second son at 38 weeks and everything being hunky dory.

Thanks for sharing this pattern... i'll definitely be knitting for the cause.


You are such a strong woman, an inspiration to us all.

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